Yesterday, a sophomore girl at my children's school committed suicide. A beautiful, talented young girl, just 15 years old. She was a recent transfer to our school, she had been a victim of bullying at her previous school and so her parents moved her. My children go to a private, Catholic high school. From all accounts, she seemed to be fitting in really well, was well liked and things were much better for her there. There a rumors going around about the girls who pushed her to the edge, if they are true...I know two of the girls. To say that this has affected me and my children deeply, is an understatement. I just can't believe that this child took her own life, I cannot believe that she thought that was her only option. My heart breaks for her and her parents.
I am on Facebook. My children are on Facebook. I got on, because I wanted to see what my kids were up to and to keep tabs on them. I'm amazed daily by the things that young people particularly (but often older people too) will post. Cruel things, obscene things...as if their words have no affect. I know that things are different today then they were when I was a young. When I was growing up, if you wanted to say something to someone, you called them on the phone, or you talked to them in person, or you wrote a note and passed it in school. When you speak to someone face to face, it's so much more real. These children text each other and they say things that they would not say to someone's face. It is all quite disturbing. I cannot believe that these bullies could not see what they were doing to this girl. The outpouring of love and support for this girl has been overwhelming, how sad that it has come too late. How sad that all of these words, these acts of kindness can't change what has already happened.
As our children get bigger so does the scope of their problems, they are no longer wrapped in the innocence of youth. It is so sad indeed. Hug your children extra tight today and let them know how special they are.