Friday, January 8, 2010

Amy W's post really got me thinking!

I just finished reading Amy W's (cheese & Sunkist Amy) and she really got me thinking. Why am I so hard on myself? I am so much more forgiving of others and generally treat them better than I treat my self. I, like Amy am the queen of the "big girl" comments. I actually used to do stand up comedy and still do several speaking engagements a year. My normal routine is self deprecating and generally aimed at my big bottom. Last year I was the comedian at a big charity event in my town and my husband said he didn't really want to watch. I was so upset....why don't you want to support me? He said, I want to support you and I will be there, but it upsets me when you say ugly things about yourself. He said, I don't see you that way and others don't either. He is a wonderful man!

I talked to my therapist about it and he said....your husband is right. Self deprecating is for losers. I was like hey! He said when you start treating yourself with respect and dignity then everyone else will too. He probably has a point.

I am really going to work on that, and I'm going to work on believing that I'm really worth the effort to get myself to a healthier place. Kudos to Amy and all of you bloggers who really get us thinking! Happy weekend.



Amy W. said...

Thanks Tessie! I totally want to be a public speaker and plan to be someday! Self depricating is totally a defense mechanism... but I have to say that it has served me well...but I need to be more aware of it.

Thanks for this post!

The Secret diaries of .... said...

A new year a new outlook I think!!! I too am waiting to be banded!! i want it like yesterday Late March is the only date I could get! Ive got quite a lot to loose... I choose a word for the year and its believe! I believe I deserve this surgery! Look forward to supporting you through the journey... xx