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Friday, March 11, 2011

My thoughts on a Friday....

Hi there! I hope everyone is having a great day, I'm so glad it's Friday. I'm looking forward to a weekend of no Mardi Gras, yay! I do have a busy weekend planned. Tonight I have a track meet to attend, my oldest will be running and jumping hurdles. Saturday is my brother's 60th Birthday party, it's a surprise, so it should be fun. And, I plan to sleep in tomorrow and do a little house work and laundry.

I have made and executive decision not to participate in the x-rated BYOC today. I love to talk about sex, but not in a public forum. So, you guys will have to wait for Chicago to ask me any personal sex type questions! LOL!

I loved all of the comments yesterday about the TV characters, that was fun. Also, I particularly like Kristin's comment about my husband's blog. When I was talking about the comments he made about voluptuous women being better equipped to handle life in general. Her comment was this: "I think John's point is sound. I've always thought not being particularly attractive in my teen and early adult years forced me to develop a sense of humor, intelligence and a sense of kinship with people who were, well, average. I have family members who were always really pretty, and they relied on their looks a lot. I never thought of it this way at the time, but I think I was blessed to not have that option. It really pushed me to develop as a person." I would totally agree with this statement as well. Although, I've seen Kristin and she is beautiful! Read also said that people who have had to struggle generally are better prepared to face the world, great points. I personally believe that my weight problems are what helped me to develop my sense of humor and the type of outgoing personality that I have. I've said it before I have always felt like if I can get in a conversation with someone, they will see past my fat. Now at this stage of my life as I'm approaching my 50's I see friends of mine, who were beautiful young women, really struggling with the loss of their youth and some of their beauty. It's been interesting for me to watch some of my friends that I have always thought had it all, and now I realize they had some things, but those things are fleeting. I think there is a lot to be said for women who accept and embrace all parts of the maturing process. One of the things that makes me sad for myself is that I wasted a considerable amount of time trying to change myself, when I was a young woman, had I spent that energy embracing myself, differences and all, I would have saved myself some heart ache. I suppose youth really is wasted on the young. I have done a lot of thinking lately about what it is I really want. Will I be happy when I reach my goal weight? Will I then have a whole new set of flaws to fixate on? Will I be able to age gracefully or will I go kicking and screaming into bluehairdom? Will I ever know the answers to these types of questions? Does anyone else think like I do? The list goes on and on. Again, lots to think about. There are things that I'm starting to feel very sure about, I feel sure that I will continue to lose weight and work on my health. I am starting to be a little more accepting of myself and I'm realizing just how lucky I am that I am married to a man who really has always treated me the same, no matter what size I am. I am working on doing the same for myself!

I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

Big Hugs!

T

7 comments:

Beth Ann said...

Great post!! And all true. :)

Mary H. said...

I totally agree with that-it really does make you learn to rely on things other than looks. I must thank "the fat" for making me who I am today. However, I've learned all I need to know from it, and it's time for it to move out! ;) Oh, and the x-rated BYOC is too much for me too. I was blushing just reading the questions. ha!

Jess said...

Great post!

~Lisa~ said...

Excellent post! Thank you!

trisha said...

wonderful thought-provoking post

Read said...

"One of the things that makes me sad for myself is that I wasted a considerable amount of time trying to change myself, when I was a young woman, had I spent that energy embracing myself, differences and all, I would have saved myself some heart ache." While I totally get that - and even share some (okay a lot) of those same feelings - I also believe down to my very soul that if it had been any different you wouldn't be who or where you are today - you wouldn't, for instance, be married to the wonderful man who loves you for just exactly who you are - and not remotely for what you look like - though clearly he likes that part too! That said - I struggle with remembering that. And (hand shoots into the air) hell yes I think am constantly asking those same questions to the air around me.

I am very much looking forward to meeting you and look forward to getting you drunk and talking sex! LOL

Stephanie said...

I had to refrain from the X-rated BYOC. yes, I'm normally outspoken and can make a sailor blush at times, but if you want to know the anwers to those questions, ask me in person. The internet is forever, but memories fade! LOL

Like you, my personality was developed out of necessity since I wasn't the "pretty" one compared to my friends, so I developed a sense of humor. I have to admit, I am one for hyperfixation and for me, if it's not one thing it's another. I was huge, so I have the WLS. Now that I am a bit smaller, I fixate on my face and the work I need done on my neck area. Sometimes I wonder will I ever be happy and see what others see in me. That was one of the issues I had in Chicago. I was around so many women who were just like me and I was nervous about people liking me for who I was. Sorry...i;m having crazy, rambling thoguhts now!